THE GIFT OF FRIENDSHIP
So the last couple of weeks have
been an emotional roller coaster for me. I have had to face the consequences of
a series of careless decisions that I made over a period of time. I had to
battle feelings of shame, regret, unworthiness and honestly for a few seconds, I
prayed for God to just take me to heaven because I was just too tired of living.
Looking back, that was a bit on the dramatic side but at that time I felt too
much despair to even care.
The past couple of weeks have
also taught me how valuable friendships are and how God uses people to lift you
up. I found myself leaning heavily on other people to reaffirm who I am in Christ
and to help me look up and see that God loves me unconditionally.
I often hear people say (and I am
sure I have said this in the past) that they do not need friends. While I would
not encourage anyone to remain in any relationship that is toxic but I would
definitely encourage people to seek Godly friendships. The Bible is filled with
accounts of people that formed rock-solid friendships and teaches a lot on not only
what to look out for in a friend but how to be a good friend to others. This tells us that friendship is a gift that
is valued highly by God and one that we should treasure too.
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other
succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who
falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can
keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone
can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three
are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. (Ecclesiastes
4:9-12, NLT)
The verses above basically
summarize friendship. It is amazing when it is done right. The question now
becomes, how do we get into friendships that build us up and glorify God?
Like everything else in life, I’d
recommend giving all our cares to the Lord and laying our requirements for friends
at the feet of the Father. God has a knack for bringing people in our lives
that we need and this is made easier when we look to Him to direct our paths.
In addition to this, I would highly recommend not expecting perfection. The
verses above clearly states that when one person falls, the other reaches out to
help. Perfect people never fall. The Bible gives leeway for our humanity and we
should extend that grace too in our friendships.
In addition to these, true friendship
requires vulnerability. You cannot be a rock for others and not expect to be
held up sometimes. You cannot always be an encourager and never give room for
others to encourage you. You cannot be a listening ear to others and never offer
people the chance of listening to everything that life has brought your way;
both good and bad.
Finally, the goal of our friendships
should be giving glory to the Father. Every friendship should have God as its
head and constant reference point. This would ensure that we do not take our eyes
off God and fix it on another human as the source of our joy!
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